We always play the lead role in our dreams and want to play the lead in real life.
Truth is, no-one wants to live an average life. However, for different reasons, we convince ourselves that ‘average is OK.
What does it mean to live an average life today? A life that most of us live, day in and day out.
An average life today is a life of false dreams – dreams you never saw for yourself but were given to you by society –
- of owning the biggest car on the block
- of being a parent
- basically, doing what you think you SHOULD BE DOING TO FIT IN, WITHOUT PUTTING YOUR HEART TO IT.
An ‘average’ life is where you work all day, without a real sense of fulfillment at the end of it.
A life where you let your health go downhill in the pursuit of everything else.
Trust me, you do NOT want an average life.
Because a smiling old man is always better than a grumpy one. One gives you a promise of happiness, other the fear of the unknown.
So, before time runs you out, let me tell you 6 Yoga secrets that will make you the best version of yourself, so you can live a life that is not average, by any means!
‘What you fear’ should be your biggest fear
The 7 Chakras or the energy centers in our energy body define and govern the various aspects of our lives.
The lowest Chakra is Muladhara which is the Chakra of ‘security’.
While being secure is necessary, you must learn to identify the line between security and fear.
Because when Root Chakra is in a state of inertia, it causes fear. Sometimes rational and at other times irrational fear.
Our state of energy defines our life and vice-versa; whatever the cause of the fear, you need to get over it to get the energy going.
And I am not talking about the fear of heights or fear of closed spaces here – but FEARS THAT CONTROL YOUR LIFE ON A DAY-TO-DAY BASIS.
Fear of losing love if you do that and not this… fear of losing respect if you behave that way and not this way… fear of not being the hero that you think others can be.
ANY FEAR THAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK AND CONTROLLING YOUR DAY TO DAY LIFE.
IT IS TIME TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, AMP UP YOUR COURAGE AND BE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE, EVEN IF YOU TAKE ONE STEP RIGHT NOW.
By doing so, you shall automatically become the best version of yourself.
Stop being pushed around and take control
And how do you do that?
By empowering your Chakra that governs desires.
I know it’s a cliché, but our desires are pushing us here and there all the time. Distracting us when we should not be distracted and taking us where they go.
Picture this – You are working smugly on your laptop and you suddenly get the urge to look at your mobile to see how many people liked your latest picture on Instagram or Facebook. If you got a lot you feel happy, if not you droop down – the desire for approval from others.
Or this – You know you should not be eating a particular kind of food, or too much food because it is bad for you, but you eat it anyway justifying it with ‘living life king size’ – Uncontrollable desire of the tongue.
Well, that is the nature of this Chakra – with the element water, it keeps flowing in all directions unless you learn how to channel it in one.
While you are supposed to enjoy the fine pleasures of life and enjoy the ride, giving in to these pleasures and becoming a slave of them has its own consequences.
LEARN TO PRACTICE SELF-CONTROL AND EMPOWER YOUR SACRAL CHAKRA TO CHANNEL YOUR ENERGY IN THE DIRECTION YOU WANT IT TO FOCUS.
Another secret of becoming the best version of yourself.
All that talk about loving others is useless, unless…
As a kid, you were the upcoming star and the center of your life but as you went through life, they told you otherwise and you believed.
Or you were fortunate enough to grow up all confident but you had one big financial or emotional blow and you gave up on yourself.
Somewhere down the line, we lose touch with ourselves and start having negative thoughts about ourselves. Well, there goes your Manipura Chakra bent out of shape.
This lack of self-love raises its ugly head in the form of Ego because when you aren’t naturally up in your own eyes, the easiest way to put yourself up is to put others down.
Start loving yourself in a wholesome manner by accepting both your strengths and weaknesses, and become the best version of yourself.
Improvement of your current self is an option, but unacceptance is not.
BECAUSE IF YOU CANNOT LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY, LOVING ANYONE ELSE IS NOTHING BUT A MYTH.
Start with including others in your version to make it the best
The best version of yourself can not be complete without compassion and forgiveness.
And just like the Manipura Chakra needs you to love yourself unconditionally, the Anahata or Heart Chakra needs you to open up to others and accept everyone as they are – unconditionally.
I remember a time when I stopped feeling any connection with anyone around me, I felt so closed!
In the middle of the crowd, I could feel alone.
And all along I thought, it was other people who weren’t accepting of me.
But as I started on the path of Yoga, I realized it was me, not them. And so, I decided to reverse the equation between me and the world around me.
Instead of waiting for people to approach me, I started being the first one to make a conversation, to say hi, and to pass a smile. And I realized, the world out there is just waiting to open up to me and so it did.
And it wasn’t always perfect, people have their follies just like we have ours but that is the whole point – of being open and yet forgiving.
SO GO AHEAD, REVIVE SOME LOST CONNECTIONS AND KEEP MAKING NEW ONES TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
No-one understands me… wait, do you understand them?
Are you someone who is always suffering from the syndrome ‘No one understands me’? Or the one who finds themselves at a loss of words when trying to express themselves? Especially something important.
Or are you the one who believes it is better to talk smoothly and get along rather than speaking your truth of what really goes on in your mind and heart?
Well in all cases, you need to heal your Throat Chakra that is Vishuddhi – the Chakra of purity.
Start making a sincere effort to understand others instead of trying to make yourself understood. In short, become a leader and lead the way, rather than waiting for others to pave it for you.
Become someone else’s voice if you struggle with expressing yourself and you will see how things take a turn for you.
THERE ARE ALWAYS WAYS OF EXPRESSING YOUR TRUTH WHILE RESPECTING OTHER’S, TRY AND BE CREATIVE WITH YOUR COMMUNICATION AND BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
The Best Version of Yourself is Beyond Intelligence
A wise man once said intelligence can only take you so far…
So what will take you beyond?
We live in a dynamic and multi-layered existence.
To think that everything will happen to our understanding or to our control is childish.
Even if you do not believe in God of any kind, there is something, some power, some hope you call for when you feel out of control in times of despair.
Some energy that goes around and babies are born making you wonder about the miracle of life. The same energy which when leaves a body that was full of life 2 minutes before, lies lifeless in front of your unbelieving eyes. Both miracles of life, science has not been able to control.
SURRENDER TO THAT ENERGY WHEN THINGS SEEM OUT OF CONTROL OR OUT OF COMPREHENSION.
STOP TRYING TO RUN THE SHOW ALL THE TIME, RELAX, TAKE A BREAK.
This is the secret of elevating your 6th Chakra, the chakra of all intelligence to a different level – opening a whole new world of possibilities.
So, who is a hero then? The best version of himself?
Einstein said, ‘I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.’
A hero is the one who has the guts to LET GO OF OTHER’S IMPRESSIONS ON HIM AND OF HIM. He is the one to open himself to all possibilities in life to become what he is meant to become.
To do that makes him feel fulfilled deeply, every day. Because how else can you rock at anything you do unless your heart is in it?
A hero is the one who knows how to bring balance in life so everything goes around efficiently, including his health.
So get up, be a hero – the best version of yourself.
Do your own thing – even if it is fighting in the streets, just make it classy by wearing a Tuxedo and everyone will love it, just like they love James Bond!
For some inspiration, read How I beat stress and started living my dream life in one year flat.